The Back Story
Enter Sociology of the Body – A Love Affair.
I knew for months that I was having disordered
eating issues. I refused to believe that I may actually have an eating disorder. I mean, I loved food, I loved to eat, and
I was healthy. It was when I started to measure my food, count the calories,
play games with myself to restrict my food to get that last ten pounds off…
That’s when I should have seen it coming. Alas, I didn’t. My fall into Anorexia
happened over many years of difficulty with depression, stressful life events,
and a feeling of not being in control of my life any longer. Everything was
spiraling down around me, and my food intake I suppose seemed like the only
thing I had left that I could get a handle of. I began to fear food, fear becoming
“fat”. I became extremely anti-social and cranky. Sex no longer interested me. Parties
no longer interested me. I bought smaller clothes every few months and
convinced myself I was finding happiness, or something. People complimented me
on reducing my size. This fueled the fire in a sense. It was over these months that
dear ED (Eating Disorder), or Edward, as I like to call him, came into
fruition. He had complete control over my life. An abusive boyfriend who
dictated who I could see, what I could (and couldn’t eat), what I could wear,
what I should feel…
The Regression
I had gone from an outgoing, opinionated, independent,
strong, athletic, young woman to what basically (for my frame size) constituted
a rack of bones with some left over skin from the one hundred plus pounds I had
lost. I had no muscle tone, I got chest pain when I got too excited, wore
pants, sweaters and scarves in the middle of the summer heat, and apparently I
saw nothing wrong with this. Sure, lots of people pointed out how worried they
were, but it’s important to remember that unless a person wants help, there’s
no way you’re going to force them into it. I found that place around the end of
August.
I was formally diagnosed with Anorexia Nervosa –
Restrictive type in September of 2012. Since then I have been fighting to get
my life back, or start a whole new one (which is equally as exciting). I hail
from an island on Canada’s East Coast. I come from a family comprised of two
amazingly supportive parents and a wonderful younger brother. My interests lie
within the realm of blogging (of course), music (playing and singing), dancing
(which is being put on hold for a while), running, reading, activism, feminism,
peace, crafts, knitting, yoga (lots of yoga), hitting the gym, being a coffee
snob and watching Zombie movies. So…I’m a real person, not a robot, promise, I
just have a brain that’s a little different than some people.
I could only keep up with academics for so long. It
was when I collapsed after dance practice was when I knew I was in real
trouble. To make a long story short I moved home, found a way to continue my
academics and really buckled down in order to beat this thing. It got to the
point where I was near hospitalization. I honestly feared for my life at that
point. The good news is, however, that I have completed my degree, and I’m
starting to iron out plans for my future. They’re shaky right now, but things
will come together.
Things
have changed
Anorexia has changed my perception on life. It is the root cause
of my last relationship ending(which upsets me greatly, and is something I
likely won’t ever be OK with), causes me to be cranky and short tempered,
causes me physical and emotional pain, and has taken away most of my confidence
and my love for not only social situations, but for people in general. All of
this is slowly changing for the better. In complete honesty, this disorder is
going to cause me to become the healthiest I have ever been in my life. I don’t
know if that makes sense to you, but it does to me, and it’s my blog, so hah.
As an
aside – I guess you could say that I’m on the upslope in my recovery. I’m
restoring my weight slowly but surely, and I’m hoping that staying determined
and taking things one step at a time is going to bring lots of reward. Progress
gives me hope for the future. There are bad days, but they’re going to happen.
They happen to us all, and I’m learning to take things as they come.
The Blog
I
understand that my language is… well… Crude at times. I won’t apologize for
that. If you know me personally, you’ll know that what you read here is
actually quite tame. By using “strong” language I am voicing my sheer distaste
for the situation at hand, usually. At other instances, well, it is simply the
way I speak colloquially. I never wish to offend, so don’t take anything
personally.
As for
content, I write about issues surrounding eating disorders, body image, beauty
ideals, etc., in our culture that I feel are worth shedding light on and I am
always open to suggestions. Some posts may be heavily academic, others will not
be. They are usually pretty lengthy, so don’t let that throw you off. I am
entertaining and informative, I swear. My goal is to analyze these issues in a
sociological way while also inserting my own opinion. The main goal is
education, remember. Education, understanding, and the hope that you will
spread the word regarding the importance of these issues, become more conscious
of the role of advertising in our society, learn to love yourself and accept
yourself, or if you are in a patch of trouble, are given the courage to reach
out. I hope to lean toward a more casual approach with the blog now that my
study has concluded. This means mixing in a little more of my own recovery
updates and insight regarding my experience of this journey.
My heart
and soul is in this. I thank you for reading, and I hope that A Love Affair is something you feel is
just as awesome as I think it is.
Take
care,
Heath.
Heath.
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